that's quite sad....... I feel sorry for fanboys.
It could be that we are being to unrealistic in what we want. Fangirls aren't going to find a bishounen as cute as Yagami Light and fanboys aren't going to find a girl as cute as Rikku.
set up meetings at other times... make it a club trip to otakon... (yea... i'm kissing butt here...)
you could also do j-pop karaoke if you branch out into cultural... (that was a fun time...)